Posts Tagged ‘society’

What is really the definition of ‘Chivalry’?

Chivalry

By REQUEST, I will begin to express my dearest opinions towards this topic.

A dead, well, dying stereotypical characteristic… It mainly depends on how you interpret what the notion of ‘chivalry’ actually is. It can be seen through a person living in the 18th, 19th or 20th century OR even back in the ancient society.

Ill express these different classifications of the ways people express the attitude, ‘chivalry’ through chronological order of events in history.

But I’ll start with modern day. In this contemporary age, the basic definition of ‘chivalry’ is ‘a courtesy towards women’. In relation, when one opens a door for a woman, it is classified as a characteristic of ‘chivalry’. This is not the case in this day and age. I may not speak for the whole of society as interpretations differ, the minds of every person is unique and so, I cannot clarify a general interpretation of ‘chivalry’, however, I can clarify for you, ‘MY’ interpretation of chivalry.

I believe that idea that to call someone ‘mistress’ is a dying custom and that only very few continue to use it. I also believe that sliding out a chair for a girl is ‘pussy’ and only gives a feeling for ‘awkwanoia’ (conrad’s made up word) between the two. However, I certainly believe that chivalry has developed to become accustomed to today’s traditions. Now, the characteristics of chivalry are to tend to a girl if they request for assistance, to compliment and to even buy a drink for.

I also should not deny the fact that modern feminism has influenced that notion of chivalry.

Sadly, chivalry is a topic too broad to clarify, but that does not mean I cannot compare it to past societies.

In the ancient society, chivalry was to call the women, ‘mistress, provide them with first serves of food, gifts for special events (marriage)’ this information can been gathered from archaeological evidence. In the 18th century, chivalry was to open the door for a woman, bow, hold their hand to walk. In the 19th century, chivalry was to basically to provide them with more equality, to allow them better education, job opportunities.

Ill end with my comment, ‘Chivalry is a characteristic that is influenced throughout the times, it is not uniform and will vary between different cultures, minds, ages and genders. Hence, it is a topic too broad too comprehend as vast amounts of information is required to clarify its notions’. I do not have time to write a book about it, but I will leave it as a definition that is undefinable due to its inability to be uniform.

I repeat, this was a request. From now on, I will only post opinions that will definitely be answered.

Sorry, but there are no pictures as i have no primary resources for this concept.

From, Rawk the World.

‘We will Rawk and Rawk until the whole world hears us’

-Conrad & Vanessa

Advertisements

Go Pro for Child discipline

Hey, The topic Today will be “Child discipline”.

Now, i know that cultures and rules are different in every country, so if i get something wrong, dont hesitate to comment about it. Just to let you know, ill be making references to different countries and how they manage their kids.

So why am i talking about this topic? well, after noticing an ‘event’, i began thinking… Why are kids these days, soo uncontrollable? To put it straight, i mean they are abusive, stubborn and VERY IMPULSIVE! Could it because they are the ‘new’ generation? Because they are merely ‘kids’? or because of the corruption in society?

Sounds a bit extreme yeah? Though the points i put forward ALL influence they same ‘uncontrollable attitude’ to kids, the major influence would be the corruption in society. Ill explain, then ill provide some evidence for my accusations, and then some insight to my own experiences.

The laws put forward by the Australian Government restrict the levels of discipline. I believe there are three types of discipline. Harsh and Strong, Mediocre but
‘Guiltful’ and Soft and Stupid.
The Harsh and Strong type of discipline is the ‘Whacking of the Bottom with a wooden spoon’, ‘holding their earlobe’ or whatever physical abuse to teach a kid the ‘plain and straight forward idea not to do the thing that made him deserve the punishment’.
The Mediocre but ‘Guiltful’ type of discipline is to either ‘send them into the corner of a dark room and let them stand there for an hour’, ‘restrict dinner from them but then give it to them before they sleep’ or the use of reverse psychology as they all make the child understand their wrong doing and so this prevents them from committing another wrong doing.
The Soft and Stupid type of discipline is ‘to tell the kid to go into a timeout room which is full of toys’, ‘to point your finger and wave the ‘no no’ sign’, or to say ‘you have been a naughty boy/girl!’…..

In regard, the Australian law tells parents that hitting or abusing a kid is illegal and will result in 200 hours of parent counseling and/or some court trial. They restrict the Discipline level to Soft and Stupid (employed in all kindergarten to year 6) and by many parents. In relation, America also has similar laws to this.

There is this type of diagnosis for kids who have uncontrollable behaviors such as fidgeting, excessive talking, impulsive, stubborn, abusive, distracted. It is known that there are more kids with this disorder in America, England and Australia than in Asia. Seriously, im not being racist here (im russian/chinese), but i bet you have also noticed that more American, English and Aussie kids are noisy then Asian kids. I not saying this for all of them, but for some. Now, i know that the way a kid is brought up, influences how they act and that is why not everyone Asian and western kid follow this assumption, but that is what i am trying to say… Discipline affects the way a kid ‘works’. This is true: Chinese parents, use the Harsh and Strong when the kid is still infant (less than 12 yrs old) and the Mediocre but ‘Guiltfull’ (13 and up). Whilst SOME Western parents usually use the mediocre or soft and stupid but occasionally the harsh and strong methods.

Now, for personal experience:
I was walking with my mum, holding the groceries whilst Coles (Groceries market), paid for the stuff and then went to go to Big W (department store) for some other stuff. So we were both looking at stuff on the Shelves and then, WHAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!! I HATE YOU I HATE YOU I HATE YOU, *smashes chips and drinks onto the floor and then starts rolling around on the floor banging his little fists onto the tiled floor. Me and mum stood watching along with almost the whole store. The mother then pulls the kid up and points to his nose, says ‘just this once’, picks up the chips and drink from the floor and places them into her cart. i tell my mum to go do whatever she needs to do and i just stand there waiting for something else that might be exciting. So im watching that parent and her 4-6 year old looking child go to a counter, The kid pulls are the mum’s dress and points to some Ben 10 watch (green and bulky) and the mother just ignores him. THEN, the kid takes the watch and puts it into his friggin pocket. they pay and just when they leave, the alarm goes off and the mother is like wtf. The kid starts crying (probably coz of the noise) and then well, she figures the kid took something and then bloody pays for it and leaves….
I stood there, appalled! What has society turned into??
Companies strategically placing kid’s toys in the kids field of vision, the parents accepting and forgiving nature to the kid’s obvious problems, the naivety of the parent’s mind, thinking that the kid is only a kid and doesnt know, the lack of control the parent has over her child…The perfect scenario that shows ‘us’ the people, a major and almost INVISIBLE problem that is destroying us.
After a while, my mum comes back with the stuff and then we go to the counter, pays for stuff, leaves. While walking, i ask her about that situation earlier, i said ‘Hey, when i was that young, did i ever do that too?’, mum looks at me ‘you wouldnt!, you were too scared to do that!’ .> (but no pain, no gain) or (learn from you mistakes..the hard way…)

Now, i can easily assume that the parent is not fit to be a parent. She does not discipline her son, merely for moral issues and the insurance from the government that it is only a phase (who can ever trust politicians or their ‘puppet’ prime minister). The excuse for such behaviors is the name of a disease… and this disease is more apparent in America/England/Australia than in Asia… coincidence? i think not… (Asia also have higher educational standards than western society as they have more discipline AND better tests results in their schools, infact, in china, the educational standards are so good, the pass mark was made to be 65).

However, what im talking about is the punishment for doing wrongs. i want to make this crystal and ‘SCAREINGLY’ CLEAR!
Your parents love you, What ever they do, they do for your good, NOT FOR FUN (for most parents though)

So in conclusion, i want to say that harsh discipline for children is needed to get them to control their attitudes. It is not immoral to hit your kid if they did something wrong because it tell the child that what they did was wrong while only saying no is a clear ways of conveying the message. It is only immoral if you spoil your child with no discipline thinking that you love them too much because as they grow older, they will show very bad attitudes and behaviors and in the end, you will wonder what you did wrong. However, this does not give you the reason to hurt your child for any reason, it must be reasonable and the punishment must not be too severe (common sense)

here are some links that relate to Child problems and Parental negligence:

Vietnam – its culture and language

 

We’ll start simple.  Let’s do that by simply translating the word “ WHAT “ into Vietnamese.  The 1st translated word you will get on Google translation is “ “ , also known as “ cái gì “.

So tell me, in English, how do you answer when someone calls for you?  You say “What?”, right?  Well, it’s a bit different in Vietnam.  Age is a major importance.  Me, I’m ethnicly Vietnamese but have only lived there for a few years so I’ve picked up the American culture since I was very little.  Coming back to Vietnam, I realize that depending on where you stand as an individual, there is a different name for each and every person you meet in the society. 

For example, if that someone was younger than you – you call them “ em “.  If they were a bit older than you ( and is a female ) – you call them “ chị “.  Then, if they were a male – you call them “ anh “.  For people who are old enough to be your aunts/uncles – you call them “ “ (woman) and “ chú “ (man).  As for older people, you call them “ ông “ (man) and “ “ (woman).

Of course, this only works for people who live in Southern Vietnam.  Up in the North, it is much different – even I have no idea what they are.  This is to say, Vietnamese is a complex language.  And when you reach up to the mountains where all the minorities live, they don’t even speak Vietnamese!  They’re still in Vietnam, but they are not Vietnamese.   That’s the unique thing, I guess.

So back to the main point.  As we are the youngsters, we must show respect to almost everybody in the society.  How we talk, react and respond are very important.  People don’t blame you for your misbehaviors..  They blame your parents. 

English is really easy.  Your sister calls you, you say “What?”.  Your father calls you, you say “What?”.  Your grandfather calls you, you say “What?”.  But that “What” (as translated “ cái gì “ ) is the rudest and most disrespectful way of answering someone in Vietnam.  I got scolded at for just saying “ cái gì” once, and everyone looked at me like I was some evil devil from underneath hell.  So when you DO go to Vietnam I suggest you be careful of how you reply, because even with Google translation, you could still be glared at with an evil eye.

(Oh god, I just paused to take a sip of water from my cup that ants somehow crawled in..  Ew I feel blerrrg, I just drank ants!)

Body language is also an important fact.  For instance you’re trying to call someone over.  I notice that us Americans always have our palms faced up and then our fingers start the come-towards-me movement.  Woah, in Vietnam – that would be a BIG mistake.  You do that and they will practically come and beat you up! In others words, in Vietnam, we only do that hand movement to dogs or animals.  If it was done towards a human being, it would be degrading and the last thing you’d really want to do.  Ok, I’m overexagerating, but I’m serious, they’ll hate you to death if you do.

Oh I almost forgot!  Another funny fact about Vietnam culture is that they dislike having dark skin.  When I first came back to Vietnam, I felt like an outsider because I was dark.  Nah, not dark dark, but a tan dark.  Even then, people look at me like I’m some freak show.  They laugh at me, tell me how “ugly’ my skin color is and how much prettier I’d be if I were white.  It really hurt at first, but as time went by I got used to all the criticisms. 

But like people say, there is a reason to everything.  The reason to THIS was very simple, but as we have been such “outsiders” and only neighbors in their world, we would never could have guessed. 

In the US, people like to tan.  They like to look like they’ve just been back from a vacation.  They like to look like they’ve had fun and the most important, I think, is because they want others to think that they have the chance, the opportunity to even go on a vacation.  As we all know the economy in the states is really going down and alot of people just don’t have the money to spend on holidays and vacations as much…

It’s totally opposite in Vietnam.  You’re poor – that’s why you had to work out in the fields, and that’s why you’re dark!  I’m rich – that’s why I get to stay home all day, hang out and that’s how I’m white – just like the Americans!  To be honest, knowing this fact made me feel a lot better.  I just eventually didn’t care what they thought about me or my skin color..

There are so many more interesting facts about Vietnam, but I think I’m gonna build up more and more posts for later. :p    So if you like it, come back to read more next time! 

We’ll keep updating.

Vanessa